Sin-Leveling in Abuse
In abuse cases, we need to be aware of the trap of mutualization and equalization of sin lest we cause greater harm. What is sin-leveling in abuse and what is the alternative?
Category Archives: Abuse Dynamics
Beware of the Seared Conscience
What does the seared conscience of an abuser look like? This person does not feel proper guilt or shame for his abominations as his conscience has been seared, as with a hot iron. After ignoring his conscience repeatedly over and over, his conscience has become calloused and no longer functions to warn him that he is in danger.
The Weaponization of Conscience in Spiritual Abuse
In spiritual abuse, oppressors inappropriately bind the conscience of others to their own advantage to control them. Learn how a properly calibrated conscience resists spiritual abuse and leads us to true freedom. Who is the Lord of your conscience? How can we be courageous when facing powerful oppressors who can harm and hurt us?
The Weaponization of Peacemaking in Spiritual Abuse
Counterfeits. We need to be able to detect them in order to not be defrauded and victimized. Take counterfeit money for example. It imitates the real thing, but is not real. If you are fooled, you’ll suffer harm. The $100 dollar bill you just handed me to pay for my $10 widget better not be… Read More »
Towards a Right Use of Power
As a Christian, using power the right way is important because it reveals what we value and who we worship. But what is the “right way”?
CCEF 2023: Trauma- Main Session Summaries
For those of you who missed #CCEF2023, or this year’s Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation Conference, below are summaries of the main sessions. This year’s theme was “Trauma: How God’s Light Breaks into Our Deepest Darkness.” I hope these summaries will be a blessing to you. The conference audio is now available for purchase here.
Turtle Bodies Keep the Score: A Review of Dr. Seuss’s “Yertle the Turtle”
Last year, I completed a course by Pastor Tom Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative on abuse. He helps educate us to spot abusive relational systems so that we can help victims be fearless, free, and uncontrollable (a.k.a controlled by the Holy Spirit alone.) The class was immensely helpful to me in teaching me how to… Read More »
A Book Review of “Caring for Families Caught in Domestic Abuse,” Edited by Chris Moles
Chris Moles, a pastor and abuse counselor has a new book out to encourage church leaders and counselors to properly address and confront domestic abuse in their churches. His book, Caring for Families Caught in Domestic Abuse: A Guide toward Protection, Refuge, and Hope, features wisdom from a team of counselors and abuse experts who work with both victims and perpetrators of abuse. Contributors to the book include Beth Broom, Kirsten Christianson, Joy Forrest, Chris Moles, Darby Strickland, and Greg Wilson.
Beware of the Leaven of Pharisees (A Review of Michael Reeves’s “Evangelical Pharisees”)
Jesus warns his disciples to beware of the leaven of Pharisees. He knows man-centered religion is a real and present danger to his followers. Jesus kindly calls us to be vigilant, to recognize and guard against Pharisaism, so that we can experience eternal life found in Him. (Luke 12:1-12, John 5:39-40.)
Misplaced Assignment of Responsibility in Abuse
Aaron Hann, a trauma and abuse counselor, explains in his October 2022 article that a key dynamic of abuse involves inappropriate assignment of responsibility. This month, Aaron Hann followed up with additional thoughts on John 9, looking at the abuse dynamics in that passage in more detail and relating it to his own experience of… Read More »